The Art To Resettling
Sleep can be a real challenge at any age. Often the main sleep issues for children throughout the ages is a lack of confidence and inability to successfully self-settle at the right times for their ages. From 4 months of age the skill of self-settling becomes more of a sleep happy requirement rather than a goal to work towards.
The skill and importance of helping your child learn the confidence and ability to self-settle at sleep time, help them develop lifelong self-confidence at bed time. If your child is able to self-settle then there is often a seamless linking of sleep cycles which your child is able to achieve without any distress. The inability to link sleep cycles is often because they are waking looking for you to put them back to sleep, because that is what they know and haven’t yet learnt the confidence to do so on their own.
So then what is the point of resettling………
Resettling an early wake up from a nap or non-feed night time what up is just as important as teaching your child how to self-settle. The two important sleep skill are interlinked and one is not successful without the other. The reason for this is because an early nap wake up or non-feed night time wake up is often your child inability to link sleep cycles successfully, mixed in with their body clock being a little unbalanced.
Therefore, by working on resettling as well as self-settling this will happy your child understand that they need to sleep more than one sleep cycle, as well as help balance out their body clock to understand the right times and amount of sleep they need day and night.
So this is all good in theory but how do we then put this into practice?
1. Think about how you are putting your child to sleep. Are you helping to create an independent way of going to sleep…….If so then great! Now use that same way you are putting your child to sleep to help resettle an early or unnecessary wake up. This will help great consistency during the sleep period that you are wanting your child to sleep for. This will also help them to understand that it is still sleep time and not time to get up to eat and play.
2. The art to resettling is consistency and understanding when it is appropriate to resettle. The general rule of thumb is an early or unnecessary wake up from a sleep time needs to be resettled (if possible)….……for example, a wake up after 30min when the nap should be an hour or longer, should be resettled until your child goes back to sleep or the end of the nap period. The first few resettling attempts are often long and refused, but this is normal as your child is not use to what is happening or the new length of time that they need to be sleeping for, nor is their body clock. This is where consistency and patience’s is needed.
3. The same general rules apply for night time. Resettle any non-feed wake up using a version of their bedtime routine.
4. It is also important to always ensure your sleep time and sleep methods are age appropriate, to help ensure the best results. This is so you are not putting unrealistic expectation on yourself or your child during and needed resettling time.
5. Helping your child link sleep cycle and resettling back to sleep will take time for them to adjust and their body clock understand what amount of sleep is needed from them for their age.
6. It can be easy to start resettling for a day or two and not see huge result and give up thinking it was all in vain, but the inconsistency and stop start approach can be very confusing and frustrating for parent and children. Most children thrive on constancy and structure, but it can take some extra patience from us as parent to help achieve our happy sleeping goals.
Creating happy sleepers is all about balancing their day/night to reach the optimum balance they need to sleep happy and in peace. Creating and finding this balance can be a long and frustrating road for parents and children. Know that resettling is an important part of helping to restore your child balance is an element often forgotten or over looked. Resettling helps to continue that balance and flow in your child learn to sleep journey, which many even need to be used on and off throughout the little live.
So if you’re working on creating a happy sleeper don’t forget to ensure that you are resettling any unnecessary wake ups if possible. This will help your little one learn to link sleep cycles and balance their body clock to sleep at the right times and duration for their age.
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